It's been quite a while since my last post, but I've been sick. I have already been sicker this year than the last five years combined!
We've also been dealing with this custody thing. My stepdaughter's mother has left the state! She didn't notify the court or CPS; she just up and took off. I say good riddance! I just feel bad for my stepdaughter. How does a mother do that to her child? I don't think I will ever understand.
The good news is the custody thing should be over in about a month. CPS told us to get custody from the mother in regular court and they will then close out their case. So here is to hoping things are wrapped up within the next month or two!
I'm going back to bed now because I feel like crap!
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Saturday, February 2, 2013
Sunday, January 13, 2013
Odds and Ends
It's been quite a while since my last post. My step-daughter now has a new cps worker assigned to her and trying to get in touch with this woman is like trying to make a phone call to the white house! She doesn't take calls and doesn't return them either apparently. In the mean time we are just hanging out in limbo, I guess. My poor step-daughter is still waiting to get her stuff from her mother as was ordered by the court. The worker has called me twice and left messages for the biological mom! But I can't seem to get her to return my calls. When my stepdaughter had to leave her mother's house, she left with one change of clothes and that was it. The bio mom has not given her any of her stuff. What kind of mother does that? The bio mom has refused visits with her daughter and has pretty much disowned her. There are some gruesome allegations coming from my stepdaughter, but I can't really get into detail because of confidentiality issues.
Things are getting really hard now though because my husband is spending a crap ton of money on gas to pick his daughter up, bring her to our house for a few hours, and then take her back to her grandparents house where cps has temporarily place her. He is also responsible for all the insurance co-pays. There are three 20 dollar co-pays a week and that is just for his daughter. I'm out of my glaucoma medicine and have been for a few weeks, but there just isn't anything we can do right now. We are again behind in the rent! I don't know what we are going to do. It's almost time for income taxes, but they won't get here soon enough! I told my husband to get a hold of the cps worker and tell her that we want to move to Pennsylvania because of our circumstances and maybe she could hurry this stuff along to help us out, but once again we have to be able to actually talk to the woman before we can tell her anything. grrr I am so frustrated!
On a better note, I love having my stepdaughter around again. With everything she has been through you would think she would be a raving lunatic right now, but she is pretty strong and smart! She is interested in moving to the country as well. She is into crafts big time. She sews, quilts, knits, draws, and paints. We have talked extensively about sustainability and being as self reliant as possible and she seems to agree with my views.
Just so you know, I have a daughter in her twenties who is married, but has no children yet. She graduated from college, but is still working a minimum wage job for a retail store because she hasn't been able to find a job in her field yet. She lives with her husband with his parents because our trailer isn't big enough for all of us. I will refer to her as G. Then of course is the middle child. The one I was talking about above who is in her mid teens. She is strong, pretty, and smart! I will refer to her as A. Our third child is ten. She is strong, pretty, smart, and hyper as a month old puppy! I will call her V. Yes we have all girls; my poor, poor husband!
Things are getting really hard now though because my husband is spending a crap ton of money on gas to pick his daughter up, bring her to our house for a few hours, and then take her back to her grandparents house where cps has temporarily place her. He is also responsible for all the insurance co-pays. There are three 20 dollar co-pays a week and that is just for his daughter. I'm out of my glaucoma medicine and have been for a few weeks, but there just isn't anything we can do right now. We are again behind in the rent! I don't know what we are going to do. It's almost time for income taxes, but they won't get here soon enough! I told my husband to get a hold of the cps worker and tell her that we want to move to Pennsylvania because of our circumstances and maybe she could hurry this stuff along to help us out, but once again we have to be able to actually talk to the woman before we can tell her anything. grrr I am so frustrated!
On a better note, I love having my stepdaughter around again. With everything she has been through you would think she would be a raving lunatic right now, but she is pretty strong and smart! She is interested in moving to the country as well. She is into crafts big time. She sews, quilts, knits, draws, and paints. We have talked extensively about sustainability and being as self reliant as possible and she seems to agree with my views.
Just so you know, I have a daughter in her twenties who is married, but has no children yet. She graduated from college, but is still working a minimum wage job for a retail store because she hasn't been able to find a job in her field yet. She lives with her husband with his parents because our trailer isn't big enough for all of us. I will refer to her as G. Then of course is the middle child. The one I was talking about above who is in her mid teens. She is strong, pretty, and smart! I will refer to her as A. Our third child is ten. She is strong, pretty, smart, and hyper as a month old puppy! I will call her V. Yes we have all girls; my poor, poor husband!
Wednesday, December 26, 2012
Catching up and going blind
I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas! Even though money was an issue this year, I had a good Christmas. All the kids came to my house on Christmas Eve to celebrate. They all chipped in for the food and I did the cooking. Christmas Day was a time to relax and unwind.
We are still trying to move to Pennsylvania. The problem is right now my husband's daughter is a ward of the state because her mother is an idiot. Even though my husband has not been proven unfit, the state stepped in and took custody of his daughter. We don't understand why because we were taking care of any issues she might have stemming from the care or lack thereof provided by her mother. We were in the middle of a custody battle with the mother which we would have won in light of the things going on. We had the child in counseling and she was seeing a medical doctor again. We were in touch with the school as well to make sure things were going good there. But yet the state in its infinit wisdom still stepped in and now in order for us to move from this state, we have to wrest custody back from the state. Most people don't ever have to deal with this issue and so no one understands how hard it is to go against the state in a custody battle! Once they get control they don't like to give it up. The court papers give a listing of court dates for a three month review, a six month progress hearing, and a twelve month dis positional hearing. I am quite frustrated as my husband is and neither of us know how to rectify the situation. Our lawyer is less than useful as well. So we may just well be stuck in this area for a whole 'nother year!!!! GRRR
In the meantime, my sister is waiting for our arrival to help her with her mortgage. I was looking forward to being in PA in the spring to check my sister's soil, amend it, plan and start a garden and look into getting some chickens. My sister had raised chickens, rabbits, and a pig before, so she has all the necessary shelters and equipment. She got rid of all her animals because she was having problems working full time, taking care of her household,taking care of her parents and trying to take care of all the animals. My husband would work and my sister would continue to work while I stay home and maintain the home-front and raise most of our food.
I'm sure people are wondering by now why I just don't go out and get a job. The answer is because I don't drive and finding a job is practically impossible when you don't drive and there is no public transportation! I haven't had my license in seven years because I voluntarily gave them up due to a lack of vision; literally. I have terrible eye sight. I am legally blind without my glasses and I can't buy my new glasses right now. They cost over three hundred dollars and that's with my husband's insurance covering the frames. The reason I gave up driving though is because I cannot see in the dark when another car is coming towards me. Staring at the white line does not help! Even daylight driving is hard for me when the sun is shining bright. I do not want to be responsible for hurting someone and so I just quit driving. Recently I have been diagnosed with Glaucoma as well. I am loosing my peripheral vision quite rapidly to be honest. I get little flashes of moving darkness at the corner of my vision and it literally makes me jump. Can you imagine me driving down the road, getting a flash of movement to the side, thinking it's a deer or person and me swerving to miss it? I can and it's not a pleasant thought. The least that would happen is I would get rear-ended by a car behind me because I stopped suddenly. The most is I could swerve into on coming traffic and seriously hurt myself or someone else! It's just not worth it. I could not and do not want to live with the consequences of driving when I know it is not safe for me. The bad side of this is it's practically impossible to get a job. I've worked all my life and should qualify for disability, but unfortunetly the doctors are hesitant to declare me unable to drive. I just want them to go for a drive with me! My husband won't even go for a ride with me!
It's very hard to be so dependent on other people. I long for a day to go window shopping at the home improvement store (one of my favorite activities. I never claimed to be normal!), but my husband doesn't like doing that and so I never get to do it anymore. Sometimes I go a little stir crazy in the house and just want to jump in a car and take a little spin, but I can't! If I need something from the store, I have to wait for my husband to get off work or to have a day off. I have to schedule all my appointments around his work. It's not easy on him either. He works long hours and the last thing he wants to do when he gets off for the night or gets a day off is drive my butt around! Sometimes I feel like a burden to my husband- he deserves so much more! It's very frustrating for both of us.
This whole Glaucoma thing is pretty disgusting too! When I wake up in the morning and usually after I've been reading a lot I get this leaky eye thing going on where my eyes water and water and water some more. It's like having a cold in my eye! When I get up in the morning it literally takes time for my eyes to adjust to seeing...how crazy is that! It takes about fifteen minutes for my eyes to focus and quit watering. Glaucoma is a death sentence for my eyes. There is no cure. I have to put drops in my eyes every day and those drops cost me thirty bucks for a tiny bottle! Most people get Glaucoma in their sixties and seventies. All the doctors can do is try to preserve the eyesight until the person's death. They do this with the drops, laser surgery, and regular surgery in a progressive rear guard type fight. Because I am in my early forties, I have a bigger chance of totally loosing my eyesight before I die, because they have to try to preserve it for more years than someone in a higher age bracket. My sister (not the same as above) has glaucoma too! The doctor actually diagnosed it years ago. She has not used any medication or anything and right now she just has to wear glasses to read. I had my eyes checked about three years ago and my prescription hadn't changed. I went to the doctor this year and I have lost three prescription strengths in three years! And how does that make me feel? Pissed off!
We are still trying to move to Pennsylvania. The problem is right now my husband's daughter is a ward of the state because her mother is an idiot. Even though my husband has not been proven unfit, the state stepped in and took custody of his daughter. We don't understand why because we were taking care of any issues she might have stemming from the care or lack thereof provided by her mother. We were in the middle of a custody battle with the mother which we would have won in light of the things going on. We had the child in counseling and she was seeing a medical doctor again. We were in touch with the school as well to make sure things were going good there. But yet the state in its infinit wisdom still stepped in and now in order for us to move from this state, we have to wrest custody back from the state. Most people don't ever have to deal with this issue and so no one understands how hard it is to go against the state in a custody battle! Once they get control they don't like to give it up. The court papers give a listing of court dates for a three month review, a six month progress hearing, and a twelve month dis positional hearing. I am quite frustrated as my husband is and neither of us know how to rectify the situation. Our lawyer is less than useful as well. So we may just well be stuck in this area for a whole 'nother year!!!! GRRR
In the meantime, my sister is waiting for our arrival to help her with her mortgage. I was looking forward to being in PA in the spring to check my sister's soil, amend it, plan and start a garden and look into getting some chickens. My sister had raised chickens, rabbits, and a pig before, so she has all the necessary shelters and equipment. She got rid of all her animals because she was having problems working full time, taking care of her household,taking care of her parents and trying to take care of all the animals. My husband would work and my sister would continue to work while I stay home and maintain the home-front and raise most of our food.
I'm sure people are wondering by now why I just don't go out and get a job. The answer is because I don't drive and finding a job is practically impossible when you don't drive and there is no public transportation! I haven't had my license in seven years because I voluntarily gave them up due to a lack of vision; literally. I have terrible eye sight. I am legally blind without my glasses and I can't buy my new glasses right now. They cost over three hundred dollars and that's with my husband's insurance covering the frames. The reason I gave up driving though is because I cannot see in the dark when another car is coming towards me. Staring at the white line does not help! Even daylight driving is hard for me when the sun is shining bright. I do not want to be responsible for hurting someone and so I just quit driving. Recently I have been diagnosed with Glaucoma as well. I am loosing my peripheral vision quite rapidly to be honest. I get little flashes of moving darkness at the corner of my vision and it literally makes me jump. Can you imagine me driving down the road, getting a flash of movement to the side, thinking it's a deer or person and me swerving to miss it? I can and it's not a pleasant thought. The least that would happen is I would get rear-ended by a car behind me because I stopped suddenly. The most is I could swerve into on coming traffic and seriously hurt myself or someone else! It's just not worth it. I could not and do not want to live with the consequences of driving when I know it is not safe for me. The bad side of this is it's practically impossible to get a job. I've worked all my life and should qualify for disability, but unfortunetly the doctors are hesitant to declare me unable to drive. I just want them to go for a drive with me! My husband won't even go for a ride with me!
It's very hard to be so dependent on other people. I long for a day to go window shopping at the home improvement store (one of my favorite activities. I never claimed to be normal!), but my husband doesn't like doing that and so I never get to do it anymore. Sometimes I go a little stir crazy in the house and just want to jump in a car and take a little spin, but I can't! If I need something from the store, I have to wait for my husband to get off work or to have a day off. I have to schedule all my appointments around his work. It's not easy on him either. He works long hours and the last thing he wants to do when he gets off for the night or gets a day off is drive my butt around! Sometimes I feel like a burden to my husband- he deserves so much more! It's very frustrating for both of us.
This whole Glaucoma thing is pretty disgusting too! When I wake up in the morning and usually after I've been reading a lot I get this leaky eye thing going on where my eyes water and water and water some more. It's like having a cold in my eye! When I get up in the morning it literally takes time for my eyes to adjust to seeing...how crazy is that! It takes about fifteen minutes for my eyes to focus and quit watering. Glaucoma is a death sentence for my eyes. There is no cure. I have to put drops in my eyes every day and those drops cost me thirty bucks for a tiny bottle! Most people get Glaucoma in their sixties and seventies. All the doctors can do is try to preserve the eyesight until the person's death. They do this with the drops, laser surgery, and regular surgery in a progressive rear guard type fight. Because I am in my early forties, I have a bigger chance of totally loosing my eyesight before I die, because they have to try to preserve it for more years than someone in a higher age bracket. My sister (not the same as above) has glaucoma too! The doctor actually diagnosed it years ago. She has not used any medication or anything and right now she just has to wear glasses to read. I had my eyes checked about three years ago and my prescription hadn't changed. I went to the doctor this year and I have lost three prescription strengths in three years! And how does that make me feel? Pissed off!
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